Where have you been Dianne???

Don't get me wrong. we're glad that you have joined us, but I think we could have used you with us from the beginning. Take a look:

Gotta Love A "Disney" Movie

Okay... I laughed out loud in the office over this one. I don't know who at College Humor is so funny, but this is GREAT!

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Faith vs Faith

So I continue to get irritated by the rhetoric of the Yes on Prop. 8 people. I heard what amounted to an 8 minute infomercial on my local PBS station this morning about how the Catholic Church supports proposition 8 because of the church's stand on homosexuality. What irritates me is I am a Christian as well, and my faith causes me to oppose proposition 8 because of it's ban on same sex marriage. So who is to say who's faith is right. 

Well I think the US Constitution settles the argument in my favor. This country was founded not as a Christian nation as so often we are told by the conservatives. The country was founded on the principal of religious FREEDOM. Freedom that means the government MUST stay out of religious matters. The law must be BLIND in that regard. So in order for the law to be blind, it cannot exclude any rights. Ahh a slippery slope, I know. But I think it does apply here. 

The California Supreme court did not mandate that the Catholic Church MUST marry same sex couples, it only mandated that the State must recognize those unions equally before the law. BUT proposition 8 WOULD mandate that MCC could NOT marry same sex couples, thus taking rights away and codifying discrimination into our state constitution for the first time in the state's history. 

Of course you can extend these arguments to absurd conclusions like men marrying dogs, but people let's be reasonable, we are talking about CONSENTING ADULTS, that MUST count for something. 

Join me in voting against discrimination by voting NO on PROPOSITION 8! 

God Bless Andy, Opie, Richie and The Fonz

There is not much commentary necessary for this one. Just check it out. It is funny, poignant, and so on target! 

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Republican Women are So HOT!

Okay I admit it, I am stealing the title from a lesbian friend, you go Stephanie! 

I was reading some of what my Facebook friends are up to this morning and I ran across the following video post of Sarah Palin in Kuwait shooting an automatic weapon, take a look:

So who wouldn't be scared of this woman being vice president 

of the United States, and likely president if John McCain 

continues to loose it. Let's remember he is the same age as 

Ronald Wilson Regan was when Regan began his SECOND 

term, and now we know that Regan was beginning to show signs 

of Alzheimer's Disease. 

How is is possible that we are on the verge of possibly electing 

this man and the dingbat woman he chose as his running mate??? 

WAKE UP AMERICA! 

STOP THE MADNESS!

Pigeon Holed

Some of the recent events in my life have caused me to be thinking about my place in the world that is the Gay Community. There are several things I just don't understand. The biggest of which I will dig into here. 

So we are a community comprised of social outcasts because of our genetic predisposition to loving the same sex. We became a community to support each other and help others to not have to go through what we did as they choose to come out. At least that is my general understanding. 

What confuses me is why we have this idea that we should separate into these sub groups with very specific guidelines and rules for inclusion. I suppose it bothers me because I don't fit neatly into ANY of the pre-described slots and so like so many dead letters, I end up on the floor of the sorting room. 

For those of you who are close to me this isn't news, you have probably heard me rant about it before, and I apologize. For some I am not hairy enough, for others I am too hairy. For some I am too big and for others I am not big enough. And so it goes on and on and I end up feeling like I don't know what is expected of me. 

Today for example I was chatting with a very sweet young man who insists that I am Daddy. That is all well and good for some fun now and again, but really folks, I have a soon to be 13 year old for who I am truly her daddy. I don't need a 20 year old who calls me that because it makes his dick hard. It is hard to escape the stereotype though. I am 45 and what hair I have is gray. I am a big man so it is natural to be seen as daddy, and as I say, once in a while in the bedroom, can you call me that... sure. I only have problems when that is the only thing you can call me. Sometimes... I might want you to be daddy. 

When I first came out I met a man 15+ years my senior who was very sweet and held my hand as I came out. He would tell me how he didn't understand all these rolls we have created in our beloved community. When he came into the community, you got naked and did what ever came natural, maybe sometimes you were the top and other times you were the bottom. That sounds so much like me... and yet I cannot seem to find other men who feel the same. 

I think it may be along the lines of why conservatism is so popular. Just listen to them, there is black and white and no gray. It is all very easy. And so the rolls in our community also make it easy, you're in the club or you're not. How sad for us that we have become like every other part of society and have lost our ability to include all of those who have been given the special gift of loving people of the same gender. 

I prefer living my life in all its messy technicolor glory. Anybody want to join me? 

Boys; You Can't Live With 'Em, and You Can't Have Sex Without 'Em

I was reminded yesterday evening of how difficult it is when someone you are seeing makes a unilateral decision about your relationship. It has happened to me on several occasions in my own dating life. You are going along seemingly knitting your lives together and giving more and more of your heart only to have the rug pulled out from under you in a phone call, e-mail, IM or conversation. You are left standing there wondering what you have done, why you have risked getting hurt again. 

For me the answer is simple, without risk there is no possibility of reward. In the moment this is little comfort, in fact, it won't even stop the ache for a millisecond, but it is the underlying reason why we risk our hearts, gay or straight, to be in relationship. 

It is also the foundation of why I am a man of faith. I believe that we are called to relationship with the Creator and that our interpersonal relationships are were we learn how to be in relationship with God. Unfortunately we are frail humans subject to the imperfection of our being and we often end up hurting each other. It sucks. 

But in those times when it sucks, we learn things about ourselves, sometimes things we don't want to know, sometimes things we always knew. Most importantly we are reminded that we are alive, and able to feel emotion and able to form attachments to other people. 

It is the scandal of being gay, we are just like the straight community. We can break each other's hearts and find it within ourselves to move on. 

You get extra credit if you get the two song references in the last two paragraphs.